Tuesday, September 6, 2016
Esther Breaks Up With Tinder Boyfriend After 2 Weeks
Tinder is a great way to meet people and find dates, however don't count on it for a serious relationship as most people on there are crazy once you get to know the real person, Dating these days is hard because people can easily pretend to be someone they are not online, which is why Tinder dating can be treacherous.
As such, Esther found this out when she dated a guy from Tinder and had to break up with him after only two weeks! Twoo weeks of a lot of text messaging, emotions, and dramatic statements of love from her "boyfriend" who ended up being legit crazy (had mental issues, for real). The experience was a great lesson on how to notice red flags, so listen up ladies!
It started as most relationships do. They matched on Tinder and started chatting. After weeks of chatting back and forth, he disappeared.
Red Flag #1: If someone disappears, its not a good sign.
After a couple of months, he reappeared on Tinder and they re-matched. He told her that he has moved to Charlotte and had just moved back to Atlanta. The truth was that he moved there for a job and was fired.
Red Flag #2: If someone can;t keep a job for more than a couples of months, its a bad sign.
Since at the time Esther didn't know the reason of his return to Atlanta, she made plans to go on a date with him. He cancelled last minute and cancelled the next 3 dates that were planned thereafter. One of his excuses being that he "forgot the baseball game was on today and wanted t watch it with his buddies". (-_-)
Red Flag #3: If someone cancels several times in a row, its a bad sign. Walk away!
Though Esther was no longer interested in dating this dude seriously, she was still curious so agreed to go on the next date after lecturing him about making plans. He finally showed up on their date, and was probably the most boring conversationalist on a date ever (apparently, he was complaining the whole time)! He was cute though! So the dinner date continued at one of his friends houses.
Red Flag #4: If you don't click with someone on a date and they end up boring you, it doesn't matter how cute they are.
Once at his friends house, they hung out and drank by a fire. It was a nice night and everything went well besides the fact that most of his friends were doing drugs, arguing, and drinking way too much. Though he future boyfriend did not participate in that and was actually chill, the first date ended well, so they kept talking.
Red Flag #5: If a guy has friends who drink and do drugs a lot, it is likely he does too when you are not around.
Soon after, Esther had to go on vacation and would not be able to go on a second date for a week until she got back. However, he kept in touch by texting her several times a day with mulltiple emojis <3 (:*). For the next several days while she was on vacation he made dramatically loving statements such as "don't worry babe, soon will be married and have babies," and "i want you to meet my parents when you get back".
Red Flag #6: If someone falls to fast, it can be a sign that they are unstable, unrealistic, and have emotional issues.
Though Esther tried to pacify his "sweet" yet desperate text by bringing him back down to earth with text like "let's wait until we get to know each other better," she liked the attention and hope it would work out.
A couple days later, it was clear he was head-over-heals for Esther. Even though she was still out of town and had only been on one date, he officially asked her to be his girlfriend. She said "Yes", then she proceeded to get about 30 kissy-face emojis in a row.
Red Flag #7: If someone asks you to be their girlfriend too soon, without really knowing you well, don't do it.
Once it was official that they were together, the cracks began to show in his personality. It seems like everything has been building up to that moment so he could finally reveal his true self. The next day, she got an urgent text message from him saying "we have to talk". Oh lawwd, what now?!?!
She was worried, that maybe he had cheated on her or they were going to break up. Instead, he revealed that he had been an alcoholic for a long time and that his parents were sending him to rehab. He needed to know if he should wait for her to get back and go, or if he should leave the next day for a 3 month treatment as his parents insisted. After a long discussion, she agreed to support him and they would be able to see eachother once last time when she got back before he went off to rehab.
Red Flag #8: If you are dating someone who has mental/addiction issues, do not stay with them. It's OK to support them, but do it from a distance and reassess if you should be with them after they complete treatment.
The very same day that Esther got back from out of town, he insisted that they hangout together. Though she warned she was tired from the trip, he went to her house to watch a movie. As soon as he parked his car at here house, he pulled out a handle of vodka and brought it into the house, made some drinks, and drank most of it by himself for the rest of the night. Clearly, he was not ready to commit to rehab or he was just freaking out. Either way, by the end of the night he (a 6 foot 34 year old man) was slurring and stumbling around her apartment. She thought: Oh no, what did she get herself into? Was this what he was really like the whole time?
The fact that she had to turn his unwanted advances down several times and he reeked of vodka finally made her decide to cut the cord with him. Something was clearly not write and she didn't want to stick around to find out. By that time he had also quit his current job "because it was too much work", go figure. Got fired from the second job and was no longer working. He lost his car and she broke up with him the next day.
His response to her break up was "i feel dumb now because i already told my mom about you."
Red Flag #8: If you are dating someone who has mental/addiction issues, do not stay with them. It's OK to support them, but do it from a distance and reassess if you should be with them after they complete treatment.
The very same day that Esther got back from out of town, he insisted that they hangout together. Though she warned she was tired from the trip, he went to her house to watch a movie. As soon as he parked his car at here house, he pulled out a handle of vodka and brought it into the house, made some drinks, and drank most of it by himself for the rest of the night. Clearly, he was not ready to commit to rehab or he was just freaking out. Either way, by the end of the night he (a 6 foot 34 year old man) was slurring and stumbling around her apartment. She thought: Oh no, what did she get herself into? Was this what he was really like the whole time?
The fact that she had to turn his unwanted advances down several times and he reeked of vodka finally made her decide to cut the cord with him. Something was clearly not write and she didn't want to stick around to find out. By that time he had also quit his current job "because it was too much work", go figure. Got fired from the second job and was no longer working. He lost his car and she broke up with him the next day.
His response to her break up was "i feel dumb now because i already told my mom about you."
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